Act As If

You may have heard that if you want to create something in your life you should act as if you already have it.  If you desire more money, act as if you have more money and it will come.  If you want a loving relationship, act as if you have a loving relationship and it will come.  If you want a healthy body, act as if you have a healthy body and it will come.

 

This is one of the functions of the Law of Attraction and how you set the Law of Attraction in motion.

 

When I first learned this idea about 'act as if', I didn't really understand it.  I thought I should act as if I had money, so I would spend it.  I thought I should act as if I could run a marathon and then I over extended myself.  Something about 'acting as if' in my outer world seems to prevent me from achieving what I wanted!  Then, I finally got it.  It is about 'acting as if' in my inner world, in my mind, that was the key to success.

 

When you begin to think the feelings of having more money, better relationships or greater health, your unconscious mind begins to adjust your perceptions so you can recognize what it takes to get what you want to have.  It will adjust your values so you are doing what it takes.

 

The feeling of having a new car is not having the new car itself yet it is the feeling that sets up the condition by which you save the money for the car, find the car, negotiate your best deal and finally buy the car.  That is the process of having... and it all began with a feeling you got in touch with by acting as if you had it.

 

Ask yourself, "If I am a new car owner, how do I feel?  If I am healthy, how do I feel?"  Then, act as if.

 

BE Amazing,

-Lane

Awareness

Last year our nation's most celebrated concert violinist participated in curious analysis that can be parlayed into a brief look of how people listen. Joshua Bell, who began playing violin at the age of 4 and now plays over 300 days a year around the world, stepped into subway station in New York City.

Without tux and wearing regular street clothes, he began to play an impromptu concert on his violin made in 1713 by Antonio Stradivari. One of the master's finest, Joshua Bell paid a reported 3.5 million for the violin.

The story goes on to say that over 45 minutes the 1000+ passersby flipped $32.17 in change into his open case. Only one person recognized the masterful music and stopped to listen.

We live in an amazing world. Miracles are happinging all the time. The sun is brighter, the sky clearer, the grass is greener than you think it is.

How about you? In any context, in any situation, you are always more amazing, more effective, more powerful, more beautiful, more loving – than you think you are.

Today's Winning Edge, is about listening. Far beyond hearing, really listen - and become aware.

BE Amazing,
-Lane

Letting Go

I have been talking to a lot of people the past week or two about various "problems" being experienced right now.  I myself have have been experiencing some interesting limitations.

 

The common theme that is coming up is an unwillingness to let go.  "Where does this unwillingness come from?", I have been asking.  The answer is clear.  The ego is responsible.  The ego is that part of you that shouts out, "Pay attention to me!  I am really who you are!  You need me!", anytime you are getting closer to your true nature, which is love.

 

No one would ever feel unworthy or fearful if they were connected to their true nature, to spirit. Once you are fully being who you are, you are fully empowered. There is no fear because fear is based in the ego and the ego cannot exist when spirit is present. You are acting out of your true nature which is love.

This weekend, I made a choice to acknowledge the lessons my ego was trying to teach me.  I am embracing those lessons and I let go of the fear, uncertainty, and doubt about writing my book and getting some training rooms filled up.

 

What is it you want to let go of this week?  Wouldn't today be a great day to decide to let it go now?  Right!

 

Silver, who is a teacher, student and friend of mine taught me a new way to let it go.  You have to give it away.  Give it to God, the universe - whatever.  If you just release it, it could have simpy moved from one hand to the other.

 

First, identify it.  What is this feeling or emotion that you want to give away.  

 

Second, claim it.  You cannot give away what you do not have.  

 

Third, give it away.  Get your learnings first then declare it "given away" and choose to act as if.

BE Amazing,

-Lane

Active Listening

Active listening is the idea of being fully present while listening to another person, really taking in what they have to say.  Many people will begin spinning their web of rebuttals ready to jump in and take control of the conversation at first breath.

Most of the time we hear what the other person is saying but we are not really listening.  To actively listen means to give your full attention to what the speaker is saying so you fully understand what the intent of the communication is.

When listening to a speaker, if you are formulating what your response is going to be, you are not practicing active listening.

With active listening, you can begin to take your understanding of others to a much deeper level.  We all think in pictures, and the words we choose are our best representation of that picture in our mind.  Well, if a picture is worth a thousand words, then it is not to far of a stretch to imagine that whenever a person is speaking they cannot express all those words because it would take a very long time! 

Begin to pay attention to how a person is thinking by actively listening to their words and begin to understand the underlying picture in their mind.

Rather than asking yourself, "What am I going to say?", ask yourself, "What are they saying?"

BE Amazing,

-Lane