Be Really Really Kind to Yourself

A very good friend of mine often reminds her friends and students to "be really really kind to yourself".

Can I let you in on a secret? Every judgment you place on someone, or something, else is a judgment you place on yourself.

Consider this, have you ever been angry with someone? And... how did you feel? Right, you felt angry. The other person didn't feel your anger. Only you experienced that feeling.

So, let me be honest with you. When you are feeling some negative emotion about someone else, you are the one experiencing the not so good feeling. Since you are the only one in control of your emotions, you are, in reality, not being kind to yourself.

That's right! You are in control of your emotions. Well, perhaps I should say, you are responsible for your emotions. You are in control of your emotions the moment you decide to take control.

Would you like to know how to be in control of your emotions? It is pretty easy to do. It is true that when you remember a time when you were really angry then you will actually begin to feel angry. Since that is the case then it makes sense that if you remember a time when you felt really joyful then you will feel joyful. Give it a try.

Your emotions are always a result of your focus and your expectations. Decide to find the good in every situation.

I remember a funny story about the little boy from the city visiting his grandpa in the country. Grandpa found the little boy with a smile on his face, digging in in a pile horse poo. Grandpa said, "What are you doing boy?" The little boy responded, "Grandpa, there's gotta be a pony in here somewhere!"

Be really really kind to yourself. Find the good in everything. You always get what you look for.

BE Amazing,
-Lane