How do you see it?

If there is good then there is bad right? If there is happy then there must be sad??? Hmmm...

One of the ways we know what we know is by creating dichotomies like this in our mind. To know what something is, it is important that we know what it is not. You know a chair is a chair in part because you know a chair is not a table. They both have four legs and the both have stuff set upon them yet, somehow, you know that they are two different things with different purposes.

Have you ever met someone who setup their understanding of success as "the other guy must fail" in order for them to have won (or a deal must be good for me if it is bad for you)?

Now, I know you have heard of the win-win approach and I agree, in business and life in general, we must set our intention that everyone gets a win out it, and... sometimes there is a loser. Life is an experience of these dichotomies and how we choose to experience the dichotomy we are involved in will ultimately determine whether we are successful or not.

Take the case of some children sports where there is no "winner" identified because they don't want to other kids to be the "looser". I say, redefine the dichotomy; declare the winner and thank the other team for being competitors.

So, how do you see the dichotomies in your life? How can you redefine them in order to create the kind of experience you desire?